Auntie Laura was my mom’s younger sister, she was the fourth and my mom the second out of 10 siblings. They were born just on the verge of “foreigners” trying to establish trades with China, the period when the old bureaucrat idea ruled, new “western” cultures were treated with suspicion. Auntie Laura and my mom were “tightly knitted”, talking on the phone weekly, for hours.
Auntie Laura had gone through lots of cultural and technological changes in her lifetime, she embraced all those challenges easily. She was first taught how to do complex calculations with an abacus, now, she used a computer to trade stocks. She was taught the old Chinese social lifestyles, such as getting a husband through match makers. But in her late teens, she enrolled in Maryknoll Catholic high school in Hong Kong, learning the European type of social skills and etiquette. She met her first date through dancing parties, one of them became my uncle later. Against all odds, (financially and family opposition) my auntie decided to emigrate to Canada to join the love of her life. They established their new future in Ottawa, then, Windsor. Without any relatives around, Auntie Laura was married out from a convent, with all the nuns merrily preparing for her wedding. Knowing how difficult lives can be for starters, she would always care for other people and would donate generously.
“Do not be sad, I will take care of you. I will be your mom”. That was Auntie Laura comforting us when our mom passed away. And that was only two and a half years ago, when we were well into our 60s. In these few words, she displayed her love for all, and for her family. She always treated us like one of hers, and as a mom, no matter how old her children are, they are her beloved children.
Farewell, Auntie Laura. I am sure you will be joining my uncle and my mom in your eternal lives.
Bernard Yip
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Friday February 7, 2020
via Condolence Message