Message from his Children
I thank you for being here to celebrate the life of a man who was a loving husband, a
wonderful brother, a great dad, grandfather, great grandfather, uncle and a devoted
friend to all who knew him.
Garnet Edward Ryan was born right here in Windsor just over 85 years ago - a new son
for my grandparents Edward and Veva and baby brother to Claire.
Im sure all of us here could summarize our memory of him with these three traits - his
booming voice, his deep contagious laugh and his bushy moustache.
Though a man that stood only this tall he had a personality that towered above us all.
Dad was extremely large in his love for life, his sense of humour, that unmistakeable
voice and his dedication and devotion to those things that were important to him.
That dedication and devotion manifested itself throughout his life as he and Babs
tirelessly devoted endless hours to the Royal Canadian Legion and its student athlete
program, the golfing-55 plus league and the Royal Canadian Army Cadet Corps - a
program that Pat, Doug and I all participated in.
Dad was an organizer and it was not unusual that see that anything he was involved in
and helped with usually led to him running it whether he wanted it that way or not.
Dads love of the military was unmistakeable and it made us all proud to see him
progress from his start as an entry level Private who you couldnt see as he was
dwarfed behind the bass drum he wore on his chest in the Essex Scottish Pipe Band to
the ultimate accolade of being promoted to Lieutenant-Colonel and being given
command the 21st Windsor Service Battalion. His military wisdom and knowledge
provided both my brother Pat and my sister Lynne with the support and direction
needed to see him become Commanding Officer of the Essex and Kent Scottish
Regiment and her attaining the rank of sergeant and it provided me the direction,
background and guidance I needed to fulfill my dream of a military career and all that
followed from that.
Dad was an avid sportsman throughout his life; he enjoyed playing such sports as
recreational hockey, golf and curling. He even took up downhill skiing as an adult
learning on the small hills of Michigan ski resorts. I had the opportunity to show him
the big hills of Western Canada in the early 80s. I was living in Alberta the time and he
and Huey Allan flew in to Edmonton where I picked them up and we drove west to ski Marmot Basin in Jasper. Earlier I mentioned Dads extraordinary sense of humour. I
must tell you that living with those two in a small hotel room for four days provided a
lifetime of laughs. The ultimate laugh came when, on our first trip up the mountain to
the top of the chairlift, they dragged a book out of one of their backpacks. The look on
the faces of the other skiers coming off the chairlift was priceless as they saw these
two middle-aged grey haired men at the top of Marmot Mountain holding up at focal
arms length and gazing into an instructional book titled How To Ski.
Life did not start out easy for our Dad. Early in life he worked a low paying job in a gas
station to support his family but he had a vision of which we are all extremely proud.
He returned to school as an adult and earned his university degree and graduated from
teachers college opening the door for him as an automotive teacher with the Windsor
school board. This also provided him an even greater opportunity as he met and
married his devoted and loving wife Babs.
Dad was an Automotive Teacher at King George High School on Ottawa Street - I am
honoured that some of you who were there at the time are here with us today.
As young adults, if we had a problem with one of our cars, it was only a quick phone
call and a short drive away and like magic a problem was solved.
If you ever visited Dad at his shop it was great to watch him teach and pass on his
knowledge and love for fixing cars. It was also funny to watch the kids who only took
his class for a credit. He had a two room shop - the classroom with the hoists and a
wash bay. Those who wanted to learn were always where Dad was and those who
didn't give a hoot were in the other room. As Dad moved around the shop so did the
students - he knew this and he always said that nothing got by him. Dad would relate
stories of him breaking up fights at school - he would get between the scrappers and
because of his small stature they would think it was another student and take a swing
at him and that's all it took for Dad to end the fight in his fashion. He may have been
small but so is dynamite and you didn't want to make him mad.
Dad was a straight shooter who knew how things should be done and wasnt afraid to
correct you if he didnt agree with your approach to things. If you did something out of
sorts he would let you know how it should really be - if you didnt like or agree with his
assessment you were likely only to hear well, sorry about your luck.
Over the last several years Dads health started to fail him and it compromised his
ability to live the full and active life that he was used to. He underwent a heart surgery
operation, had what I referred to him as bionic knees installed and finally and critically his kidneys failed him and he was forced into a constant regimen of dialysis. Through
all this you never heard him complain but you knew it was affecting him - the classic
and unmistakeable laugh became less and less frequent. Over the last little while you
knew that his kidney failure was taking its toll - you could see it was draining away that
classic Garney personality we all knew and loved. He appeared to be in a constant
state of tiredness, even struggling to stay alert during his favoured NCIS television
series. He realized and willingly accepted his limitations and the required compromises
and gave up driving. His strength continued to fail him and he increasingly
experienced growing balance issues. It came to a point where he required help with
what became a struggle with the simple process of climbing a few steps. Early this
past Wednesday morning it all became too great a burden and he left his struggle
behind for greater things.
Dad we all trust that you are now in a place where your hearing is back, the knees are
new and your strength has returned to its former glory. The only thing Pat, Doug and I
cannot find acceptable is that all your hair has now returned.
His leaving leaves a big hole in Babs and our lives but we will always remember the
little man with the heart of gold and that contagious laugh and booming voice.
Im sure right now he is standing around in a friendly conversational circle of friends
who have also passed. Someone is sure to say Garney, stand up, we cant hear you.
You know you would quickly hear that signature booming voice respond I am standing
up DAMMIT. Give your head a shake. You know the drill.
We Love You, We Miss You.
Posted by Patrick Ryan
Sunday November 10, 2019 at 10:05 am